Are You Keeping It Alight?
You know that situation, the one that feels uncomfortable, the one you’d love to disappear?
It may be hard to hear this, but it could be YOU that’s keeping it alight!
I come across lots of situations like this, and my favourite way to explain them is to liken them to beautiful, roaring campfire.
Continue to add logs to the dancing orange flames, fuel it with attention and the fire will keep raging. Stop adding fuel to the fire and it will fizzle out. Without energy and attention, the fire will naturally come to an end.
So let’s go back to the situation that’s making you feel super uncomfortable – are you adding fuel to it? Now you’re aware that putting time, energy and attention into something, anything, makes it continue to thrive, do you think it might be time to stop adding the logs?
We don’t mean to fuel these negative situations or circumstances. And most of the time we aren’t actively seeking out drama, it simply comes knocking at our door, and often brings out the worst in us.
You know that saying, “ah, well, they couldn’t let it lie”? That usually comes after a situation has escalated out of control, because people have kept on popping energy and attention into it.
So how can we let the fire fizzle out?
Sometimes the very best way to protect ourselves is to detach from these situations. Remove the energy and attention. After all, our energy is a precious commodity. We need to use it wisely!
#2 Raise Our Awareness
Instead of attaching our thoughts and efforts to negative and angsty situations (which will draw in more of the same) it’s better to raise our awareness. If we can catch ourselves in this downward spiral before it gets out of hand, we won’t get lost in the flames.
#3 Apply Some Momentum
We need to focus on how we can move forward, and avoid being sucked in by the drama. Without positive momentum, the negativity will seep its way into all aspects of our lives.
#4 Focus on Positivity
Once our momentum’s up and running, we can look at the bigger picture from a different place. We can see more objectively and appreciate how that situation could have depleted our energy, had we not made a conscious choice to rise above it and use it more productively.
#5 Channel Your Energy in a Way That Serves You Best
What have you been neglecting to fuel lately? Are there things you’d love to do? This is where your logs (energy, time and attention) are best spent.
It’s time to step out of the drama and make a choice as to where the logs need to be placed. Choose your fire wisely and it will serve you well.
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Emma Holmes is the Proud Owner and Founder of Rebels & Rockstars: a hatchery for entrepreneurs with soul. You can find her here at https://www.emmaholmeshq.com
Helping heart-centred and soulful entrepreneurs to build ridiculously big businesses is her vocation, and she still pinches herself sometimes, that this is actually her job. (She used to be a lawyer who loved living in corporate land, but when mummy guilt arrived, she challenged herself to a new adventure.)
Emma’s also an outsource cheerleader, and a spiritual but practical kind of soul. And she is definitely not scared of a challenge. (She set herself the biggest challenge of her self-employed life in 2015 – to grow a £100k online business without using the ‘tried-and-tested icky sales techniques’ that £100k biz owners usually resorted to.)
Her 2015 success story has since been put to good use (many times), and Emma is positively thrilled to have helped her clients with some pretty amazing online launches – 18k income in one day, launches of £54k+ in sales, and a 30K in 30 days project are just a tiny snapshot of her clients’ achievements.
But what makes Emma beyond ordinary is that she has her own interpretation of business success, and it isn’t about totting up your bank balance. She knows real, long-lasting business success is about creating a sustainable business you love, which grows naturally, fits around your lifestyle and family, and enables your authenticity, and sparkly personality to shine.
As well as being a real-life human blogging machine, Emma has also been featured on That’s Manchester TV and BBC Radio. She’s written for Business Rocks, Freelance Parenting, Fresh Business Thinking, Talented Ladies Club, and MeMeMe.